​​Sober Coach:  Marilyn Stevens

“Everyone must give up the control, to get control”

Family Support

As the family’s loved one continues to progress in Addiction and self destruction, everyone around them develops the identical malady.  Meaning that everyone has been harmed in a physical, emotional and spiritual way of living, belief and behavior.  This is truly a family disease, even though others are not drinking alcoholically or abusing other drugs.
 
Recovery starts with the three C’s, we did not cause it….we cannot control it….and we cannot cure it!
 
The first mistake the family makes is to deal logically with an illogical problem.  The second mistake is to not understand a loved one has lost all objectivity to help that special one with Addiction.  The blind leading the blind isn't a winning strategy.  Two wrongs do not make a right! 

Never is the disease of Addiction purposely and deliberately acquired.  It's doubtful any young person thinks to himself, “Oh, gee I think I’ll grow up to be an alcoholic or an addict.”  With that said, everyone involved falls victim to this insidious disease that has no heart.  It destroys and even kills.  It leaves all in it’s path with raw emotions.  They live with blame, guilt and are controlled by fear which leads to anger.  Certainly, that is not any way to live. The only Solution is personal recovery.

 Sober Coaching provides experience and most of all the objectivity that prevents the futile exercise of going around in circles in the deep, dark and ugly forest of raging Addiction. By acquiring the ability to do the opposite of what our thinking tells us to do, our perception changes over time by 180 degrees. The new "Normal" becomes true happiness and joy.

 As a Trainer for over 29 years in the study of Interpersonal Relationships of Behavior, clear communication, rebuilding of trust, openness and credibility become a part of the healing process.

There are no guarantees in this type of work, sometimes the Alcoholic or Addict is not ready to change, no matter what.  Acceptance is the key for family and loved ones.  It is everyone's personal responsibility to take care of themselves and most all children or the elderly.  Again, once affected by alcoholism or drug addiction there remains only one solution and that is personal recovery.  Otherwise, the emotional, spiritual and physical damage remains with lifelong consequences.  A strong connection to the recovery community and other resources will help provide for a life of freedom and happiness.    

 The lasting solution for all, “those that recover together stay together.”